Dance Like No One Is Watching

Hello dear Goddess,

How are you holding up? Full transparency here, for me it’s been a difficult couple of days. I apologize for not posting, but I felt the need to focus on my mental wellness and take some time to process my emotions. You see, I’m missing my family very much. I’m sure many of you are in the same boat.

At the beginning of this week I was lucky enough to receive a visit from one of my closest friends. It was the first time in over two months that I have been able to see anyone besides my boyfriend, who I live with. We had such a beautiful time, relaxing out in my backyard (social distancing of course), enjoying the sunshine, with good coffee, and great conversation. I am so thankful that she wanted to take the trip up here to see me. As much as it warmed my heart, it made me really miss spending time with loved ones. It made me think about my family, who unfortunately I haven’t been able to see at all since March 12th ( my mom’s birthday.) They live with my grandmother who is 93 years old, so we all thought it best to wait it out. I would never want to put her health in jeopardy. I take solace in the fact that we are all in this together, and that we can lean on each other for support as we navigate through this new normal. Technology helps.

I realize it’s okay to have bad days and to get emotional over what’s going on, and this week has been just that; an emotional one. So what do I do, when I feel sad? I dance.

I suggest you try it dear goddess. Even if you don’t think of yourself as a dancer, that is a false statement. Anyone can dance, and everyone should dance. Dance when you’re feeling sad. Dance when you’re happy, when you’re angry. Dance when you’re feeling creative, or bold, or sexy, or silly. Dance even when you just feel like you need to get out some pent up energy. It’s such a beautiful expressive thing that really helps connect you to your inner life force and to just be one with your body. Observe how you can move in ways you didn’t even realize. Feel your energy flow through you and just enjoy being in it with the music. Feel your soul just grow lighter the more you dance and leave any negative thoughts in the dust. Just dance it out.

Dancing has always been an outlet of mine. Growing up I wanted to be a ballerina. For a long time, my little creative soul would put on home stage productions of ballets for my parents. I was always the star, and would recruit my brother to be in my show alongside me. Usually he played the villain complete in full costume and makeup (whether he really wanted to participate or not is still up for debate). I loved dancing so much, and was so passionate about it that my parents, bless their hearts, put me in some classes at the Boston Ballet School, which prepped little girls for the real thing. Unfortunately, this free spirit could not be tamed, and the structure and non existent performances were enough to make me dance my way out of there. I still remember being extremely disappointed that instead of a stage recital in full bedazzled splendor, I would be performing the Nutcracker’s Arabian Dance in studio, with simply my practice leotard as my recital attire. Oh the horror!

I never joined a dance team again, but instead, ended up cheerleading through middle school, high school, and into college, and that became my outlet. I was so passionate about it and was able to really excel, and pick up the sport quickly. I loved the dance numbers most of all.

Now, I dance every day. I dance in my kitchen while cooking dinner with Mike, I dance around my room as I get ready for the day, and I dance for exercise. My favorite dancing exercise is Beachbody’s CIZE. If you haven’t heard of it, I strongly suggest checking it out. Shaun T is the instructor and will get you out of any bad mood. Guaranteed. He is really funny and motivating and breaks down the dance moves in a way you can understand. Even if you start out feeling like you have no idea what you are doing, the first step is just to keep moving. This alone will be so uplifting for your mind and your body, and I promise you will sweat!

I did this workout today because I was having a hard time this morning, and I can honestly say my mind feels so much more relaxed and I feel a lot more positivity flowing through me. It always feels good to move your body, and especially after a tough workout, the accomplishment alone should put a smile on your face.

So goddess, I encourage you to give it a shot. Put on your favorite music, and just go crazy. Dance like no one is watching. Dance with wild, reckless abandon. Dance like your life depends on it. Dance and leave your soul right on the floor. Let it heal you. Let it express the beautiful you. It’s your body after all, so show it some love!

Once you’re done, I’d love for you to write about your experience in your journal. What emotions came up while you were dancing? How did you feel afterwards? Was there a song you danced to that you really resonated with?

See, now doesn’t that feel good?

As always,

Stay healthy, be positive, be well,